The True Love
Test
Everyone dreams of finding their perfect partner, but is
there such a thing as true love and why do people split up.
Affairs are the number one reason people split up and it
turns out that younger women are twice as likely to take
decisive action in the case of an affair and leave. The second
biggest reason people get divorced is constant and continual
arguing.
Love seems so easy in the early days. This is because our
feelings alter the way we see our partners. We idealize them.
The more in love you are with your partner the more you will
idealize your partner.
Brain scans of people in love has shown that people "in
love" have high activity in the part of the brain that
encourages our reward system. At the same time the part of the
brain that controls critical social and moral judgements has
low activity. There is indeed truth in the statement that "love
makes people blind". This mechanism appear to be built into our
brains to make us stay together. Researchers have shown that
the effects of these chemical changes in the brain only last
for 2 to 3 years.
What make people stay together in "true love" after this
initial 2 to 3 years of "blind love" ?
Scientists have recently discovered that the way your
partner smiles is a great determiner for if they are
in fact your true love. Even early childhood pictures of your
"true love" can help determine how happy they will be with
their life in general and their choice of partner for eternity.
More on this later.
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