Love Compatibility Tests

At one point or another we have probably all searched the Internet for that romantic ideal “true love”. Wasting a lot of time and energy because we lacked a means of testing if someone was compatible with who we “really are”. It’s easy for us to get discouraged.

But do we really have to leave our love life up to chance?

There are a lot of outdated views and incorrect mythologies about love that don't stand up to reality. What most of us end up searching for is a fantasy (A prince Charming or Aphrodite), and that's exactly what we'll get, a fantasy – nothing real. The models we use to find our soul mate are obsolete and inaccurate.

Quizzes can never take into account the complexity of the human personality. Especially the Cosmopolitan Magazine style “how to find if he is the one” style pop culture quizzes. The Internet is full of these pseudo love compatibility tests, none of which are based on any scientific research. To make it even harder, Internet romances are especially limited since it is all too easy for people to hide behind invented personas.

Research has also shown that we are not alike in our needs for intimacy. The usual kindness and attractiveness attributes we intuitively use to make relationship decisions on are not enough for that relationship to work out over time. Dr. Edward Hofman and Dr. Marcella Bakur Weiner have in fact identified a dozen basic personality traits we must consider.

A love compatibility test must include an assessment of your own core personality in addition to that of your potential partner. Relationships that work take into account who we each are individually. With our perfect partner our passions in life are amplified and limitations balanced. In a compatible love relationship we become more of who we really are.

Dr. Weiner and Dr. Hoffman spent 7 years of research to compile the definitive bible on Love Compatibility, titled “The Love Compatibility Book”. The book incorporates studies in the fields of biology, personality theory and developmental psychology. They offer a revolutionary new perspective verified again and again in their case studies over 7 years.

The book includes updated research on 12 basic personality traits. These traits are known to be genetically inherited – they won’t change over time. You will learn a lot about yourself and in some cases why previous relationships might not have worked.

The more you match with your partner on the twelve traits the more long lasting and enjoyable your relationship will be. Only the high score criteria are mentioned below since the low score criteria are simply the reverse criteria.

Need for companionship
- nearly always need to be accompanied by a friend to events

Idealism
- usually concerned for environment and social issues. Tend to have jobs in social working, counseling, legal etc.

Emotional intensity
- have strong feelings about nearly everything. Very boisterous, visibly tearful or angry when recounting events.

Spontaneity
- tend to arrive late to appointments, or not at all. Very forgetful. Always losing things. Prone to spur of the moment decision making.

Libido
- very flirtatious. Wear sexy clothing. Conversations often shift to sex.

Nurturance
- tend to have pets at home. Like to look after others and always consider the well being of others.

Materialism
-always wearing fashionable clothing, expensive watches and designer accessories. Have fancy cars and love luxury.

Extroversion
- never shy to casually introduce themselves to anyone and everyone.

Aestheticism
- usually amateur musicians, photographers and artists have this trait.

Activity level
- would look physically fit and trim at any age. They usually exercise every day.

Subjective Well-being
- very optimistic. Always look on the bright side of life.

Intellectualism
- read lots of books. Have an advanced vocabulary and are usually writers and thinkers. They know what’s going on in the world.

Go thru the list and access your high scoring and low scoring traits. Then based on observing your perspective “true love” over time access them in the same manner. How many traits do you both match on? Access where non matching traits may cause conflict in the future.

For detailed quizzes, we highly recommend you purchase “The Love Compatibility Book”. Although the quizzes are more geared for couples to check on their existing compatibility, an unattached person could still use the information to be clear on their own personality traits and use this to determine the ideal traits of a future compatible true love.

Remember, there are no guarantees with any love compatibility test, and there needs to be that extra “little spark” as well.